My son said the H-Word uncensored!!! What should I do.?

Question

I was scanning through my 23 year old son's myspace page(I have one of those key logging thingamajigs) and His profile name has the H-Word in it.

He can't use the word H*ll uncensored. We are a good Christian family, and he is ruining the sanctity of the Wilkin's name.

I have already reported him to the Priest, and he said it wasn't that big of a deal. I am removing myself from his church because of his failure to recognize the severity of the situation.

I just don't know what to do. He is ruining my name, I may have to have a name change done, because this is horrible, just horrible. Who knows? Next he might say the D-Word Uncensored....

This is a very serious problem to me, and I usually keep to the law section, because I am a lawyer, but I am seeking your help for this.

Answer 1

It isn't up to you to save him. He has to want to be saved. It is a choice that he will have to make for himself. All you can do is pray for him. God will hear your prayers. -God Bless.

Answer 2

What you should do is put this whole thing into perspective. The word he used is NOT taking the Lord's name in vane. That word is the name of a place that YOUR religion believes exists. It is the correct name for that place, according to YOUR religion. How can using that word be SOOO terrible that you are going nuts about it?



The much, MUCH more important thing is that you used a key logging program to spy. Your intent was to spy. That is totally dishonest, you should be ashamed of yourself. You seem to think of yourself has a person who is just slightly below God, yet you do something totally dishonest like that. How could you do that?



How can you justify your actions? Compared to your actions, his were totally meaningless.



Let me guess, you are "born again" and you are a member of an Evangelical church, right?



In Evangelical terms ANYTHING you do is okay because you are saved. You are saved because you belong to THE RIGHT church. That means that ANYTHING that you do, no matter how bad is okay.



Can you explain to us what "the severity of the situation" is? I, for one, don't see what your son did as a big deal. What you did, however, is a violation of secular law and I'm sure also religious law.



Then again, perhaps this isn't a real post. Now that I think about it, it is so preposterous that is the only logical explaination. You have been a member about a month and your Q&A is private; those are consistant with people who post troll posts.



P.S. Please point out any biblical or other respected sources that suggest your son will burn in H*ck. By the way, what/were is H*ck?

Answer 3

Sorry i know F-word, what is H-word & D- word? btw, I dont really know how to confront you, you seem to be an extremist religious person, and no matter what people say, such people hardly care to bend some rules. But let me tell you something, when you are going through your adult son's private stuff , isn't that bad ? you are doing wrong as well. I can just say, you need to calm down, ironically, even the priest said its no big deal , while you are getting hyper over it. You know how world is, with exposure to different people, people learn things, and most people use many cussing words as part of vocabulory and its not used in an extreme manner, though i dont support it, but its not that they use to hurt anyone. Well i think you need to give your son his space and as first post person said its better your son is not into other wrong stuffs which one should be seriously worry about.

Answer 4

Oh my god hes 23 let him do what he wants - what is the H word anyway? I bet its not even that bad. Even the priest said it wasnt a big deal so why are you going crazy over it? Your the one making it worse!



If your a lawyer as you say I would have thought you would have behaved more intelligently over this but it seems your just acting like an hysterical child over something so significant. Your son is going to end up resenting you. Stop it.

Answer 5

I understand how you feel about this but when we have children we need to understand that it won't be an easy ride. Children (Even 23 year olds) do things to try us.

Why don't you sit down with him and discuss how you feel about this. My guess would be that he didn't realise how much this would upset you and when he knows he'll change the name.

However it may backfire as your son at 23 is a fully grown adult and he may not appreciate you snooping through the computer spying on him.

I think you need to talk to him, try not to loose your temper, and maybe have someone else to mediate (Mum?).

Be prepared for him to be upset with you aswell.

Answer 6

Dear sir;



To quote you; ""This is a very serious problem to me, and I usually keep to the law section, because I am a lawyer, but I am seeking your help for this.""



You have a 23 year old son that you spy on. I seriously believe that you need a totally different kind of help.

Answer 7

Are you for real?



Your son is 23 years old. You should also NOT be snooping in his private business. Shame on you!



Him using a particular word isn't ruining you name, but your own behavior is. You are taking something silly and making it into a big deal. There are far, far worse words that someone can use online, and millions have.



Be grateful that your son isn't a murder, a drug dealer, or a racist.

Answer 8

You are getting your knickers in a twist over something your grown son wrote on his "My Space"? Why are you snooping in his personal things anyway. He should have already have moved away from home by now. How long do you plan to control his life? I hardly think this is going to ruin your name where you have to change it. In fact, that is nonsense. The H and D word are mentioned in religion and are in fact not curse words. Using the Holy Spirit's name to curse is the one thing in the bible it says we cannot be forgiven for.

Answer 9

Your son is 23.

He is responsible for his own actions before the priest and more importantly before God.

Don't take his mistakes as your own. You are not your child.

Besides there are worse things that he could do. This is trivial really.

Don't change your name -you will be taking the responsibility of this on your shoulders. It doesn't belong there.

Answer 10

dude chill out like for real i understand dat ur a good christian man n dats great but dude come on its not a big deal n if da priest even said so himself den u should take his word for it i mean he is a priest rite n i bet ur son wasnt even usin da h e double hockey sticks word ina bad way now wuz he??

Answer 11

you are freaking out! everyone swears. and besides your son is how old? 23? honestly you have no right to deny him the freedom of speech that you and your "christian family values" have been denying him ever since he could speak. you aren't that great of a parent if you can't accept the fact that your son is GOING TO SWEAR. he's out of the house, just leave him alone

Answer 12

hi, i know this upsets you. talk to your son about it. ask him to change the offensive words.



and wouldn't it depend on the way he was using the H-word. because it is a work in my Bible. just wondering how he used it.

Answer 13

ah, why are you snooping around in someones myspace account when you " stick to the law"

Answer 14

Well HELL your son is 23 years old he can do what ever the hell he feels like doing whenever the hell he wants to. Your a ******* retard.