Question:
my mom keeps wearing my clothes?
anonymous
14 years ago
right, i know this may sound selfish, but all my life i've been insecure about the way i look, and i hate being compared to other people. for example, a few times i have bought an item of clothing, and then my friend has also bought them too, and worn them on the same day as me, and everyone who has noticed has said in front of me that they look better on the other person. and this makes me feel crappy. so when i'm in my dads house my moms wearing my clothes, my nice ones, and not telling me about it. i know this because they're either dirty or put back somewhere else. she's really slim, and pretty and looks young for her age, she's 36, i'm none of those, and i'm 16. when i think about her wearing them, it makes me think that everyone looks at her and thinks it looks nice on her, and then i don't want to be seen in them. even when i'm out with her, people eye her up and stare at her (boobs, bum), even boys my age. this makes me even more insecure. when i tell her this is why i don't like her wearing them, she tells me not to be so stupid, and i don't think she understands how i feel about myself. am i being really selfish, or does it seem fair that i don't want her wearing them? and how do i try to get her to understand the way i feel?
Twelve answers:
Erika
14 years ago
I don't think you're being selfish at all and at 36, your mother should know better than to be tarting herself up like that. If she isn't getting the hint, get yourself a footlocker and lock it up, keep the key with you at all times. If she wants to look silly, and believe me I'm sure she does, let her spend her own money. I won't tell you not to be insecure because it's easier said than done, but I will say that if you rely on the opinion of spotty faced adolescent boys, you're going to always be in for a world of hurt. Besides, you aren't done maturing yet, and who knows by 21 you'll probably be a knock out. I bet you're pretty and you don't even know it! Keep your head up, it does get better! Lots of luck!
anonymous
14 years ago
They say that imitation is the sincerest form of flattery so if your friend buys the same clothes as you that says quite a lot don't you think? If your mom can wear your clothes you must be a similar size so you're certainly slim if she is. You're not selfish and your mom seems unable to help or understand you. You obviously have real issues with self-esteem and, maybe, need some counselling.
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14 years ago
I too was a Mom with a teenage daughter, and whilst I liked her clothes etc, I never wore them, might buy myself something similar, even the same so long as it was not the same colour as my daughters top. Why? because I would not even think about robbing my daughters own identity. So I fully understand how you feel and your Mom is wrong.



It's a wonder she has not asked to go out with you and your friends - in my mind your Mom is totally wrong and doing you a big injustice, I can well understand where your coming from. Here's a funny story about daughters and Moms (my own). I am now 60 and a grandmother too. And a few years ago my daughter and I were just talking one day. Talking girlie or womanly things etc and the subject lead back to when she was a teenager and I the Mom. We're from the UK. But in 1982 to went to America and of course went to Disney Land. Jacqui was just 16, her brother Brian 14, and I a ripe old age of 37. We had one of these 3 day passes into Disney Land, and on one of the days as we showed our tickets and went to walk through, my daughter had been behind me and had been making eyes at the Entrance Attendant unbeknown to me of course. Well as you know yourself if your from the USA, Americans make a big fuss over visitors, especially back in 1982, plus they are very big on customer service and do treat you like your someone special, which of course we tourist lap up. For some reason my daughter passed by me, so I ended up the last one to go through, and the Attendant really started making a big fuss of me, hearing my english accent etc, the others just stopped and waited, but when I passed through my daughter had the biggest scowl on her face, not happy at all, so I asked what's wrong and she replied '' do you have to talk to everyone Mom, especially the younger ones'', both my husband and son burst out laughing and told her not to be so jealous. I felt awful about it, I was not flirting just answering his questions being polite, but of course I was smiling and my daughter got the right hump over it.



Well that came up in the conversation when we were talking a while back, and she admitted that yes she had been jealous, not only on that day but during the whole holiday for all the guys were looking at me. I never even noticed, because I was not a flirty type of person, but we did laugh about it many years later. I do recall at the time though that I did realize that perhaps still being a young Mom myself is not the best thing for your children.



For you I suggest you don't ask her not to do it, for she will, but when you go to your Dads, take all your best clothes with you, even if your just staying overnight. The rest make sure they are dirty, it's the only way to fight your young mother back. She should not be doing it to you though, it does rob you of your own identity. Sounds like she is wanting to revert back to her younger days, but she risks making herself look silly dressing in teenagers clothes. Maybe not now, but when she is 40 people will laugh at her if she dresses too young.
anonymous
14 years ago
ur not being selfish ur just being a little reasonable u don't want evry1 to wear wat ur wearing it is normal i mean imagine going in to a wedding wearing a wedding dress the bride wouldn't like that very much would she its just ur a little jealous and have shame that's ok u got 2 make her understand that why not go shopping for her so that u can pick her cloths which means she wouldn't have to keep trying on ur cloths u just got 2 make her understand that about how u feel especially when it comes to how u look!
Pixiep
14 years ago
I get what you are saying but it is really your problem and not hers. You need to figure out how to get comfortable in your skin and feel good about yourself. Her not wearing your clothes isn't really going to solve the big problem here.



You can't be THAT different in size if you can share clothes any way.



Try to find things that make you feel good about yourself. If you aren't happy with your body get active! Maybe you need to see a councilor? Concentrate more on how to change the way you feel about yourself and less about what others are doing.
Samer
14 years ago
Well, it’s simple; I have 2 ideas for you,



1st idea, let here read this thread (if she isn’t getting the idea when you talk, I’m sure she will when she read this blog)



2nd idea, why don’t you buy here a gift :) moms deserve gifts from time to time, just sacrifice one time instead of shopping for yourself, buy something SEXY and HOT for your mom give it to here you will be the dominant in this situation (in control), when you give her the gifts, she will be definitely surprised and happy, and tell her :D this for you; and btw stop wearing my stuff…. (Gandhi Style)



You know you are 16 u still have years and years of being center of attraction, don’t worry, these days will come, but your mom is living her last days of feeling sexy and hot, let her enjoy, few years later nothing will fit on her. And be happy for her. :D
anonymous
14 years ago
Chances are u wear her clothes to and if thats the case why dnt u stay outta her stuff to
alexis
14 years ago
you are not selfish! i wouldnt want my mom wearing my clothes if she looked like that and everyone looked at her in that way! idk what else you could do other than telling her how you feel and getting her to know that its NOT ok for her to wear your stuff. hope everything works out.
HLLD13
14 years ago
You are being fair. Talk it out..sorry thats all I can tell you
anonymous
14 years ago
Tell ur mom to **** off! or get a lock for ur closet/wardrobe.. r tell ur dad..
anonymous
14 years ago
troll.
anonymous
14 years ago
HOT.


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