How cn u guide...... i need help?

Question

my problem is vry complicated . after my father's death(it has been 3 yrs) my life is in a complete mess.....after him i n my mothr n elder bro is there in my family....my family environment has become such that m nt able to study evn though i wnt to..my mothr n my brother dont let me study...i close d door of my room thn also dey keep on bangin n shoutin....i dont noe where 2 go as frndz dont allow me 2 study in deir home n i dont want 2 study in groups....n in libraries v r nt allowd 2 take our own books and copy.I USED TO BE A CLASS TOPPER BT NOW M A FAILURE!!! i hav talkd to my mother n elder bro abt this bt they beat me.....m in 11th class now.plz help as next yr is vry important one and i dont want to ruin my life as i have ruined my 3 yrs.please help me please tell
how n where cn i study..i hav no one!!
it is mentally disturbin me
m in new delhi in india so travellin alone is nt at ol safe n i hav also talkd 2 my councellor in my school bt shez nt helpin me....plz suggest me wat cn i do?should i make a good boyfrnd will it help?

Answer 1

I really felt sad to hear your trouble it must be really hard to bear all that wen u r very passionate about your studies.Why does your mother or bro beat you? is it because u r gal and so they think you must not study or smthing....Dont worry everything will be good dear u r determined so u will definetly find a way. Look I am like your elder sister I have just completed my Engg studies & there were times when studies & social circumstances had become really hard, I am still struggling but a lot of hard times have passed by & so I feel better now.Look dear u r the best person who can solve ur problems...But I still have some suggestions:

1. Clearly define ur goal. 2. Find the best time of the day when you can study i.e. say 3.30 or 4 in the morning or if ur family sleeps early try late hours of night. 3.Whenever you study give your 100 % 4. In your free times of school hours like lunch break or games period slip into library & study there 5. Be determined in positive everything will be fine & last but not the least you dont make boy friends for a certain selfish reason they just happen in the way of life...So that is not a gud idea, U still feel low or bad abut all this do mail me at : [e-mail]. Everything will be fine & u will rock!!! All the best

Answer 2

hey my frnd..

Understand making boyfrnd is not de way to study..

U might ve heard de proverb "" Where there is a WILL there is a WAY ""

Nd if u really wanna study hard , go ahead ..

Dont care abt anything dat happens around u ..

B strong in ur decision..

Den of course i m sure u will SUCCEED ..



....

ADS (always with u as a gud frnd)

Answer 3

Aap apne friend ko study se dur hi rakkhen to achchha hai.

Answer 4

How can a Boyfriend be a solution? Can you move to some relative's place for a year or two?

Answer 5

first don,t think that you have the greatest problems than any other in this world.secondly,studies are apart of life,not the studies are life.love yourself and your family.don't fear like a weakling.turn aganist your troubles,beleive yourself and don't surrender to your fears and happy.you have only one life,make it pleasant not a nightmare.

Answer 6

feel really sorryyy for uuu...its seems real hard times...i too have gone through it once...

just wish to tell you tht dont alwayz think like""m bht pareshan hu,mujhse jyada buri life kisi ki nahi etc etc.''.u may feel ki m speakin gandhi.but it really helps.what u need to do goes like--think of the poorest person u have seen that day.do u think u r living measre than him??apko sirf padhne ka tim nahi milta to ap pareshan ho jaate ho,usko din me ek tim khana tak nhi milta.agar vo apne kaam aram se kar skta h thn why dont u???...hamare aspas itne log hn jo bht pareshan hn koi bimar h,koi kisi apne ko kho chuka h,logo ko hjaro problms hn..apko bhi h to koi badi baat nhi h...kuch tim aap study nhi bhi kar paa rhe ho to mar nhi jaoge...geting gud grades is nt th whole life...try to look at things differently...its all about th way how u luk at ur lif...be positiv...sab tim k sath thik ho jayega..and there will b times whn u'll think ki m kitni choti si baat se pareshan ho jati thi...ur brthr & mothr are th only ones who ll alwayz b there for u..abhi unki life me khud ki problms hn isliye vo apki problms ko tim nhi d paa rhe...one more thing--plz delete all those bakwas sad songs from ur laptop or comp....and at last m sorry for if i was a bit harsh..

Answer 7

when nobody is there to help you than god will help you

do one thing go to your religion temple and tell the concern person of that place he will allowed or he will use his contact and arrange something for your study don't worry it will work

if you dont have idea of that type of place take some of your friends and go to their temple or their contact.

best of luck

Answer 8

boyfriend is not a good idea for study purpose.