How can I get out of being a dad?

Question

My girlfriend (17) is bitching at for not helping out with our 8 week daughter. She’s whining that she does all the work while I go out with my friends. I rather be with them instead my bitchy girlfriend at least they don’t constantly yell at me. I mean I’m 19 and I should be able go out if I want to. I even told her if she decided to keep the brat that I won’t help and pay child support, the kid up for adoption so I could still have fun with my friends. She thinks adoption is cruel. How can I get out of being a dad?

Answer 1

You are a troll. Real men don't turn their backs on their children.

Answer 2

You were the one that got her pregnant in the first place, so man up and deal with the consequences. You're obviously not mature enough to be a dad but at least you could try. I mean, you've got a daughter and all you can think of is going out to have fun with your friends? You are pathetic. Did you actually think anyone answering your question is actually going to give you advice on how to get out of being her father? You really need to do some thinking and look after your girlfriend and your daughter, after all, you're the one that screwed her and got her pregnant in the first place.

Also, i hope she f**ks you up for being a stupid immature little boy.

Answer 3

You can go through the court and terminate your parental rights. You would want to speak with an attorney about the consequences of your decision. You will mature and one day and hanging out with your friends will not be the focus of your life. You may want to know your child and be a part of their life. At 19 you do need to spend time with your friends. So does your girlfriend. You also share a major responsibility of meeting the needs of a baby. The baby cannot do whatever they want. They are dependent on the adults in their life to meet their needs and care for them. If you truly can't and/or don't want to be a father now or not at all for this child then give them the chance to have a father who does want to be part of their life. If you would like to speak with one of our counselors you may contact us toll free 24 hours a day at the Boys Town National Hotline. [phone]).



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Counselor GW

Answer 4

TRUE FACT: YOU WILL NEVER GET OUT OF BEING THAT LITTLE GIRLS DADDY!!

you are her own flesh and blood. You will always be her daddy no matter how far you run. My dad did not want anything to do with me and my 2 sisters. We all hated him for it. When we got older he realized what he was missing. He will never get that back. I talk to him now a little, but he has missed so much. My youngest sister wants nothing to do with him.. not even now. He will never know one of his own daughters. Dont be like that. You don't want that. Now that i have a kid and one on the way My dad has changed so much and feels so bad about what he has missed but he will never get it back. Not even through grandchildren.

As far as the girlfriend.. shes a woman.. who just had a child with a man who she probly truely loved but now shes under so much stress she doesn't know what else to do just because you do not want anything to do with your daughter! She will now suffer post-partum depression. I hope she has someone to help her through this bittersweet time for her.

As for you.. You can NEVER get out of being the little girls daddy. all you can do is run away and feel regret for what you will miss. This should be a wonderful time for you. You can still go out with friends and stuff, but your daughter should come first.

Best of Luck to girlfriend. and I hope there is one less little girl to grow up without her daddy. It is very hard. Not just for you but it will be for her too. Its a life and several precious moments you will never get back. I hope you do the right thing.

Answer 5

it is fair that you want your own time but if you were in your girlfriend's shoes imagine getting knocked up by your boyfriend then him saying he doesnt want it then once the baby is born you are always looking after it while he is going out and having fun with her mates.dont you think she wants to have fun with her friends too? it is your responsibility and you have to man up and accept the consequences of what you have done.normally i dont like being rude and stuff but from my point of view-a 13yr old girl if you were my dad i would hate you so much. of course she bitching your being a useless father you arent even trying. if you spend more time with your baby and be more helpful your understandable girlfriend wont be so angry all the time. basically dont be such a $hit

Answer 6

Hey man this is easy... go to Hollywood and find that Delorean stainless steal car they used in the movie Back to the Future. Get in and program it back to the time when your parents conceived you. Sneak in your parents room while Dad is getting it on with Mom and hit them both with a hammer. Not too hard just hard enough to knock some friggin sense into them.

Answer 7

You need to grow up a bit and do your bit and spend more time at home! You don't have to stop being you but get your mates to come over maybe and sometimes go out you have the most amazing thing in the world and you can't see it!

Answer 8

you got her pregnant so now you have to deal with the consequences! Don't you care about your daughter? Even though you may not like your girlfriend it doesn't matter just break up with her. And just take custody of your child! I mean just because you don't like your girlfriend doesn't mean you have to neglect and not care for your own daughter!!

Answer 9

You could kill yourself?

Like really dude? You fucked her and got her pregnant.

Put yourself in her shoes, Having to have her first child with a guy who don't care about his own

Flesh and blood. Man up and don't be a *****.(sorry for cursing)

I mean just think of it, How messed up would you be/feel if your dad thought the same.

And if you don't have a dad think about how you felt when you were younger.

Answer 10

You lucky she didnt call the cops u should be arressted for having sex with a minor you're freakin 19 dude grow some balls dude and take responsiblity if you're old enough to have sex then you're old enough to be a dad.

Answer 11

You're an idiot. You made your bed (had a child) now lie in it (take care of it.). Its your own flesh and blood, you have a whole lot of growing up to do. If you didnt want to have a child, you shouldn't have been a dumb a** and had unprotected sex. Christ.

Answer 12

if u can't take care of ur child then why did u bring him to this world in the first place ?

and since now u brought him in this world , take care of him.

Answer 13

You sir, are a ******* asshole. What is wrong with you?

If you didn't want to be a father then you shouldn't have gotten her prgenant. You are disgusting.

Answer 14

Just tell her you want to break it, it's that simple. But honestly, you are the antagonist here.

Answer 15

Didn't you learn in sex ed that 20% of teen girls want to be teen mothers?

http://www.squidoo.com/TeenBoysNSexEd

Answer 16

u make me sick