Is it normal for 9 year olds to show each other genitals?

Question

I have been sexually abused by my uncle when I was between 7 and 12 years.

When I was 9 years old me and 2 other friends showed eachother genitals to eachother, is that normal for experimenting or is that an abuse?

I with to report the sexual abuse but don't have the courage :(

Answer 1

look hunn its normal at that age to show each others genitals cus thats the age kids are curious about that stuff... i know its hard to mustard up the courage to report being sexually abused my your uncle and im sorry that you had to go through that... but its better to be brave and just do it.. he deserves to be locked up for doing that to you ..

Answer 2

It is normal for kids to show each other their parts. I did it, my childhood friends did it, the new friends I've made during adulthood did it when they were kids. We're all pretty normal people.



So don't feel like this makes you some kind of weirdo.



You should report the sexual abuse. Do it as soon as possible. If your uncle did it to you, he is doing it to other kids. Those creeps never have just one victim.



It is true that sexual abuse victims often end up doing risky things in their sexual lives. For example, many female victims date while they are too young. They get confused about healthy behavior because of the abuse.



But let me be clear: showing your genitals with your friends when you were a kid was normal. Abuse would have been if you had been much older than the other kids and / or forced them to do things they didn't want to do. These guys were your friends and you were curious like all kids. It was NOT the same situation as the abuse your suffered.



Please try to find a counselor to talk about all this with. If you don't know where to start, visit your local hospital or even call the local Women's Shelter--even if you're male. They should have contact information for cheap/free help.

Answer 3

Yes, it is normal. It is not abuse because both were willing and consenting. Having sex with your uncle over a 6 year period shows consent on your part. Just because a law says you are not allowed to do something does not mean you are incapeable. of doing it, like giving consent.

Answer 4

surprisingly normal